Day #24: How to Be Energised
This here? This Yellow? This is your Solar Plexus. Solar - this is your SUN - this is your POWER CENTRE and this is how you are energised or completely flattened.
How can you be completely flattened or drained of energy from this place here?
There are many ways, but one I am going to mention here today, is when you say yes, when you really mean no.
As soon as you say yes to something, when you really didn't want to say yes - you have given your power away = instant drain.
When you say yes when you really mean no, you open this channel to this person if you may, and you take on all their energy.
You step out of alignment when you say yes when you mean no.
Your light is dimmed if you may.
And no one has done this but you.
The part of you that says yes when you really mean no?
Is a part of you that feels guilty in some way shape or form.
It is just a part of you that cares for that person and doesn't want to see them upset or hurt, that's all. You just have a big caring Heart, that's all. 🙏🏻
However, when you say yes and you really mean no, - you usually say it instantly right? And then afterwards you wish you didn't say that. Yet, you do it anyway.
A key reason, most do this and don't know how to change it, is they don't know what to say instead or how to say 'no' - without hurting their feelings.
The truth? Is that you can't control how anyone reacts - so yes, they may feel hurt, yet - long term? It is going to be the best thing ever.
Because 1. you won't feel drained, tired and resentful 2. you won't take on their energy and engage in behaviours that you don't usually do because you are carrying their energy and 3. you will feel ENERGISED!
Yes, the guilt will arise - but it is a bit like the 'feel the fear and do it anyway' type thing.
What can you say instead of yes?
~ Ah, that sounds like a great idea, I will get back to you tomorrow and let you know if I can come, sounds like fun/amazing.
~ Ah, thanks for the offer, but I am not intuitively called to it thank you though!
~ Thank you for this! Sounds like a great thing you have going on and have planned but I am unable to come thank you for letting me know about it though, I appreciate that.
When you say what you really mean - with confidence - and yes, that bit takes practise - just like any muscle that I talk about needs exercise, the benefits of saying no, when you really need to say no include:
~ increased energy
~ staying in alignment with your Heart's desires
But how do you actually do this?
It takes some clarity work... are you:
~ clear on what is important to you?
~ clear on what you value in relationship?
~ clear on what you value in life?
~ clear on what your Heart's desires even are?
~ know what you need to do to take care of yourself?
~ understand what your Heart calling is and are taking daily action on that?
If you are not clear on the above - time to get clear! As this is the first step in being able to say no when you want to!
The next step, is raising your self worth - which - comes, when you get clear on what you value in life, because if you are not clear, you are just washed along with the crowd so to speak. When you are clear, you have a barometer if you may, of what you need to say yes to and no to, to allocate your time, your Heart to, to give life force energy - to where you deep down want to be/go.
This Solar Plexus Yellow, this bright Sun, is your Power Centre, it 'powers' your other Chakras, your other 'lights/colours' and it gives life to them - just like the Sun, gives life to our Earth, without it - we wouldn't be here living. So imagine what happens when you continually say yes when you mean no and shut down your Solar Plexus - your life giving Sun?
What do you need to get clear on?
What do you need to say no to?
And btw, you can always change your mind!
It takes practise to say no, and in the beginning you may still find yourself saying yes and then regret it! You can say, (one example):
"Ah, I am not able to come like I thought I would be able to, thank you for asking me though, I deeply appreciate this."
If they ask why, you just say something like, "I thought I would be able to make it, but I need to take care of myself more than I thought I would at this time, and need to honour my energy and what I need to do to take care of myself right now."
You can also say something like, "I am always saying yes, before I check in with what I need to do and I am learning to honour what I need to do to take care of myself and my life, so I don't burn out. I really appreciate the offer and maybe we can reschedule for another time? How does that sound?"
There are many options and ways you can word things - you just have to learn how.
And get really clear on what you value, what's important to you and actually take care of yourself in this way.
If you don't, then you 'lose power' and wonder why you get drained, off track and in a confused mess.
That's easy to fix in a way - self care, self care, self care - and get clear on what it is you value in your life.
When you do - you start regaining power.
Your life force comes back.
And you not only REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE -
But you shine your powerful light - and live by example, of putting yourself first.
And the ones that truly value you and honour you - will totally respect this and value you and your friendship more - because you do this.
The ones that are meant to be around... will be.
And you'll attract new ones - that also have this clear value system, loving themselves deeply and this is the deeply healthy, honouring and freedom loving fun relationships - you truly want around you, don't you?
The Life Purpose Queen 👑
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